Comments on: The Optimism of Life Changes http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/ Chronicling my life and positively loving it, one day at a time Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:13:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Claire http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-48 Claire Sun, 23 Aug 2009 14:36:37 +0000 http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/#comment-48 Thank you, Laura. I expect my mom will be the same as your friend's mother - there's no stopping her. Maybe she'll even come with me on one of my walks one of these days. About kids - I've learned that I'm always a mom, but at some point my responsibility for the choices they make ends. I am excited to watch my youngest daughter become a mom - something we weren't sure would ever happen, or was even possible. And as for dating - well, I have enough self-confidence and insight to know that this was way more about him and where he is in his life and not about me. I have no hard feelings or resentments. In the meantime, while waiting for whoever/whenever, I'm living life fully! Thank you, Laura. I expect my mom will be the same as your friend’s mother – there’s no stopping her. Maybe she’ll even come with me on one of my walks one of these days. About kids – I’ve learned that I’m always a mom, but at some point my responsibility for the choices they make ends. I am excited to watch my youngest daughter become a mom – something we weren’t sure would ever happen, or was even possible. And as for dating – well, I have enough self-confidence and insight to know that this was way more about him and where he is in his life and not about me. I have no hard feelings or resentments. In the meantime, while waiting for whoever/whenever, I’m living life fully!

]]> By: laura http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-47 laura Sat, 22 Aug 2009 23:11:59 +0000 http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/#comment-47 Such a lot going on! Your mom has a great attitude and that's so important. A friend of mine's mother had her knee replaced at the age of 92 and they can't make that woman slow down. What can I say about kids? Forever keeping our hearts in our throats that's for sure! I hope all goes well with your daughter and I do hope she realizes how lucky she is to have you for her mother (but don't remind her of that!). As for dating, Teri's comment (above) says it all! I dated one man for the better part of 6 years and I guarantee if I'd had a blog back then he wouldn't have figured in my posts simply because I knew the day would come when that relationship would end (and of course it did). I reminded myself many times that maybe the right guy for me just wasn't available yet and that's why I hadn't met him. That turned out to be very true!!! Anyway I don't have to tell you to enjoy your life or to regret anything that comes your way because in the end things really do work out!!! Best wishes to you. Such a lot going on! Your mom has a great attitude and that’s so important. A friend of mine’s mother had her knee replaced at the age of 92 and they can’t make that woman slow down. What can I say about kids? Forever keeping our hearts in our throats that’s for sure! I hope all goes well with your daughter and I do hope she realizes how lucky she is to have you for her mother (but don’t remind her of that!). As for dating, Teri’s comment (above) says it all! I dated one man for the better part of 6 years and I guarantee if I’d had a blog back then he wouldn’t have figured in my posts simply because I knew the day would come when that relationship would end (and of course it did). I reminded myself many times that maybe the right guy for me just wasn’t available yet and that’s why I hadn’t met him. That turned out to be very true!!! Anyway I don’t have to tell you to enjoy your life or to regret anything that comes your way because in the end things really do work out!!! Best wishes to you.

]]> By: Claire http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Claire Fri, 21 Aug 2009 22:26:08 +0000 http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/#comment-46 Thank you, Teri. Both Mom and DD will be fine, I am sure. As for dating, I have the same approach you had. With this particular person, we were having a lot of fun living in the moment and I certainly wasn't looking forward but there was a connection - the romance development was a pleasant surprise to me. However, I'm not sure I'm capable of being just "friends" with someone after there's been romance. I just don't know if I have that in me. Some women can, but so far, I've been unable to not get jealous or hurt or both. We'll see. Thank you, Teri. Both Mom and DD will be fine, I am sure. As for dating, I have the same approach you had. With this particular person, we were having a lot of fun living in the moment and I certainly wasn’t looking forward but there was a connection – the romance development was a pleasant surprise to me. However, I’m not sure I’m capable of being just “friends” with someone after there’s been romance. I just don’t know if I have that in me. Some women can, but so far, I’ve been unable to not get jealous or hurt or both. We’ll see.

]]> By: teri http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-45 teri Fri, 21 Aug 2009 21:46:06 +0000 http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/#comment-45 will keep my fingers crossed for your mom & dd. as for the dating thing... any guy would be lucky to have you. remember that. if he decides it is time to move on, then it is his loss. waaaay back when, i lived very much in the present in terms of dating. i would enjoy what we had at the moment and did worry too much about "where the relationship was going." i met some fab guys, and some losers too. there were a few guys that i continued to be friends with long after the romance faded. one of them came to my wedding! (not as weird as it sounds... or maybe it is... dunno. all the parties involved were ok with it...) will keep my fingers crossed for your mom & dd.

as for the dating thing… any guy would be lucky to have you. remember that. if he decides it is time to move on, then it is his loss. waaaay back when, i lived very much in the present in terms of dating. i would enjoy what we had at the moment and did worry too much about “where the relationship was going.” i met some fab guys, and some losers too. there were a few guys that i continued to be friends with long after the romance faded. one of them came to my wedding! (not as weird as it sounds… or maybe it is… dunno. all the parties involved were ok with it…)

]]> By: Claire http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-44 Claire Fri, 21 Aug 2009 15:45:32 +0000 http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/#comment-44 Thank you, Wendy. Updates will be fun to post. Coming soon: picture of littlest grandchild in utero. Thank you, Wendy. Updates will be fun to post. Coming soon: picture of littlest grandchild in utero.

]]> By: Wendy http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-43 Wendy Fri, 21 Aug 2009 00:34:26 +0000 http://www.cadenceoflife.com/2009/08/the-optimism-of-life-changes/#comment-43 This was such a beautiful post. You so elequently shared your recent ups and downs with a lot of grace and insight. There is someone out there for you, and he'll be very lucky when he finds you. As for your mom, she really does set a wonderful example of how it's possible to bring optimism and enthusiasm into her later years. And expecting a new little person in the family is very exciting indeed. I'm looking forward to your updates. This was such a beautiful post. You so elequently shared your recent ups and downs with a lot of grace and insight. There is someone out there for you, and he’ll be very lucky when he finds you. As for your mom, she really does set a wonderful example of how it’s possible to bring optimism and enthusiasm into her later years. And expecting a new little person in the family is very exciting indeed. I’m looking forward to your updates.

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