So, my evening last night pretty much sucked and didn’t turn out at all like I anticipated. I won’t go into details other than to say I felt very much betrayed by someone very close to me and essentially heard their message loud and clear. There is a saying, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Well, I’m no longer going to participate in the insanity of this situation, but gently, and lovingly, set my boundaries, keep my support system close by, and do what I need to do for myself, while staying available to this person, should they ever decide to ask for my help. There is nothing else I can do when another person chooses something I consider ill-advised. It is, after all, their life, not mine.
That said, today was a “take care of yourself” day, and hence involved a little retail therapy, some time with my little grandsons, and my daughter and son-in-law. I believe it must be a law of nature that no one can be unhappy around a small child. These two boys light up my life in a way no one else does. To walk into a room and see a two year old jump up and down, squealing “Mimi!”, only melts away the worries, sadness, and loneliness.
One of the stops we made was at Pacific Fabrics where I spied – actually, Cindy spied it – the fabric I’m going to try making my plaid dress out of. (I purposely left all the extraneous stuff in the picture so you could see the size of the plaid. I was too lazy to go upstairs and get a ruler.) I couldn’t find the fabric like in the pattern, so this will do just fine.
I like this fabric because it has a small amount of spandex in it – great for a fitted dress. I’ll probably line it fully so that the fabric isn’t itchy next to my skin. Haven’t completely decided though.
And my new boots also arrived today. I’m thinking they will look awesome with this dress, and some sort of jacket (still undecided.)
And to end on a lighthearted note… I’m thinking of making this fabric into a pillowcase for myself. Then I can say I’ve had multiple men in my bed at one time.
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Whoever said “Thank heaven for little girls,” had to mean boys too! Children
are pure joy; a dose of the very best medicine… a guaranteed cure all!
So glad you found the fabric…can’t wait to see the finished product!
Sorry about your situation with someone you obviously love. They are lucky to have you!
And, about you sleeping with an entire “construction crew!” My lips are sealed!
Joanne, you are so right about boys and girls. Got to see the boys again today, so a double treat this weekend! Definitely feeling better. Didn’t get any sewing done but that will come. Now if I can just bring one of those guys to life to take me out on a date when the dress is done, I’ll be a happy girl.
Ok, so I’m liking the plaid for your dress very much and then whoa! Ha…your fantasy pillow made me laugh out loud. And the wink of the last guy? Too funny.
I hate those slap-in-the-face moments with someone you care about. I’m sorry that happened to you.
Bev – the issue with the person I love will pass and will be okay, just different. I completely understand their motivation for their decisions, but it doesn’t change the fact that it is unhealthy and that it hurts me. But I will be okay, no matter what.
sorry you had a tough day, but you are exactly right to set boundaries. life is too short to waste time doing things that don’t make you happy. even though my boys are not little, they can still bring a smile to my face. they seem to know when i am having a bad day and need a hug.
Teri – I firmly believe what you say about life being too short. I was raised to set my own needs aside and not be “selfish” but that has not always been the best behavior for my well-being and esteem. I refuse to tolerate abusive, mean, manipulative behavior and I’m being asked to overlook it. I just won’t do that.
Now I really know what you mean about grandchildren. I can’t help but smile when I see Lilah. Her face beams like the sun when she smiles.
I love the plaid fabric though I would have loved to see the boots. The hunky guy material would definitely make a good pillowcase.
Sorry about your evening. It’s really good to take care of yourself. Shopping always makes me feel better. I want to go to a bookstore today and buy a copy of “Twas the Night Before Christmas”. I want to buy a really nice copy that we can bring out every Christmas and read. We have another book with Christmas stories that Sarah had when she was little so we can bring that one out too.
Have fun with the boys. I bet they will be getting really excited as Christmas nears.
Joan – I just sent you and email with a link to the pics of the boots. They are in a previous post I did on here about looking for fabric. You must get that book! That’s the book I learned to read from before I even started Kindergarten. My dad would read it to me all the time. And I think the boys are getting excited for Christmas. We’ll see!
Dear Claire…Sew glad you found a plaid for your dress…it will look fabulous! I love your choice of fabric for a pillow case…I found the firemen on clearance at JoAnns and made myself one because my husband has been gone hunting and working extra shifts (he’s a fireman). He spied that on the bed and was like “What is this?” I said I missed sleeping with a fireman and this was the only acceptable alternative!!!
Oooh, Mary – I didn’t know they had this fabric at Joann’s. I paid full price for one yard of it at Pacific Fabrics – so that’s going to be a $10 pillowcase (unless I turn it into an apron as a conversation piece). I should check out Joanns! I would like to see the firemen one too.
Sorry you had a tough day! I am glad you found the plaid fabric for your dress. I like it. It will look great with your boots! I think my husband would be jealous if I made myself a pillowcase from that fabric-I guess I could make him one out of the pinup girl fabric.
@Julie – that would be fun – boy and girl pillowcases! LOL. I am hoping that I can spend Saturday sewing that dress…
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