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Can You Hear Me Now?

by Claire on August 26, 2011

At dinner the other night with my mom at the retirement home, one of the ladies at our table told us how she had just got a new set of “computerized” hearing aids. She had been unable to hear, really, for nine years, she said. I quietly observed her as she went around the room telling people how she could now hear everyone and the clarity with which she could hear them.

I remember when I got my first pair of glasses. I didn’t know how bad my eyesight had become until I tried out the new lenses. Trees really were green and there were edges to the leaves – things weren’t just a blur any longer.

Imagine going nine years sitting among people and not being able to hear the conversation. I can’t. I can only think of the feeling of isolation it must bring at times or the fact that one would really have to learn to read lips or sign language. Premature hearing loss runs on the maternal side of my family line, so this is something I think about occasionally – particularly when my youngest tells me I’m going deaf.

Watching the lady and her giddy joy at being able to hear – something most of us take for granted – made all my problems seem trivial and superficial. Being around the elderly for any length of time really makes you realize how unimportant many of our everyday struggles really are.

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Um, yeah, that’s not me.

by Claire on August 12, 2011

I was cleaning out my email box the other day and I came across what I’ll call the “Dear Jane” email from the last guy I dated. I had thought I deleted it but I hadn’t. Not because of any leftover feelings – just hadn’t gotten to cleaning out my inbox. But there was something he wrote that when I read it for the second time made a light bulb turn on.

“It seemed the only time we had was my helping on some project on your end, rather than relaxing on couch or having dinners and netflix or whatever”

Relaxing on the couch? Having dinners and Netflix?

Um…That’s so not me. Just ask my family.

I’m not a girl who can really sit still for very long. Sitting and watching a movie is not my idea of fun. I’d rather be busy with a project. Any day. Particularly a home improvement project. I don’t see it as work. I see it as fun.

I dated a guy not so long ago who was more than willing to help me with my projects. He was very eager and willing to join me in my life and fully involve me in his. But… the feelings on my end  just never gelled. Why, I have no idea. Yet, the last guy, the one who wanted nothing to do with my life even when specifically invited in (actually ran the other way), who only wanted me to hang out solo with him, is the one who I really liked and I ended up hurt when he couldn’t show up for the relationship.

What’s up with that?

I told my mom that my picker’s broken. Bless her heart, she responded, “You sure have had a spell of bad luck lately.” Yeah, I guess that’s it. Bad luck.

Whatever.

I don’t really care any more (well, I do, sort of). I just plan on riding my bike. Kind of like Forest Gump. I’ll ride and ride and ride. Until I’m done.

Cuz like my mom also said, “I think you’re in love with your bike.”

Wisest 91 year old EVER.

 

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A Little Something For Me

July 12, 2011

In the past few months, since all the upheaval in my family’s lives – that is, moving, buying, and remodeling homes – there has been very little time for me. There was, however, a gentleman that appeared out of nowhere and started pursuing me. I won’t go into much detail other than that I’d known [...]

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When Words You Write Come Back To You

May 1, 2011

Mom’s moving to a retirement and assisted living home. As part of that move, my daughters and I are helping her sort through her stuff to see what goes in the trash, what gets donated or sold, what comes home with me, and what goes to her new, 800 sq. ft. apartment from her 1200 [...]

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The “Exceptional Daughter”

April 24, 2011

Today, Easter Sunday, I spent the majority of the day with my 91 year old mother in the emergency room. She called me this morning at about 8 and said, “I need you to take me to the ER at about 9:45. I think I may have pneumonia.” The diagnosis from the emergency room is [...]

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Speaking of Work

November 17, 2010

If you wondered why I’ve been missing in action on this here blog of mine, it’s because I’ve been working. Between working and family, I’ve not had any interest in blogging. Not that I’ve not had things to say – I have. Just that those things probably are better left off the interwebs. Most likely, [...]

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It Works If You Work It

July 27, 2010

I always thought that was a really stupid saying: “It works if you work it”. Seems a bit like stating the obvious, to me. Honestly, I guess I never really thought much about it but if you dig into it deeper, it really is a helpful reminder saying. What does working it mean? For me, [...]

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National Hug Your Scale Month

January 8, 2010

I’m declaring this National Hug Your Scale Month. Who’s in with me? If there isn’t already such a thing, then there should be. So many people are starting – or restarting – their weight loss program this month after a month or six weeks of food binging from Thanksgiving to New Year’s. And for many [...]

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Coco Before Chanel – the movie & my reflections

December 3, 2009

I think God sends us messages in strange ways – sometimes through movies. I’ll explain. My mother and I had been planning to see this movie for a long time, and finally, last night we made it. I am so glad I took the time out of my work week to go. I got so [...]

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Halloween’s over…Next!

November 1, 2009

This was the first year, really, that I sort of got into the spirit of Halloween. My daughter decorated the house really nice this time, and I even had a decent costume worked out (for free), but like all well-intentioned plans, it didn’t turn out like I had hoped. I had hoped to have a [...]

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